Anniversaries are hard. The first ones are awful, and you might assume they'd be the worst. In many ways they are, but in other ways, they aren't at all. The further I get away from Matthew's birth/death day, the harder it gets for me because while it feels like everyone else has forgotten him, I haven't. Most other people only remember the day if I remind them...which I'm loathe to do. Consequently, my choice to not tell anyone causes me to grieve alone, much as I did last year because I was too stubborn to tell anyone. I wanted them to remember on their own.
The other option is to ask for support on that day. Find some people you enjoy and spend the day celebrating their life, your life and just life in general. I hope that's what I will do this year.
Today is an anniversary for my friend Peyton. Three years ago, she lost her son James shortly after his birth. She is strong, beautiful and inspiring in sharing his story and encouraging others to look for hope in their own grief.
Only eighteen months after losing James, she put on an awesome event called Gathering Hope: An Evening of Love and Remembrance. Eighteen months, y'all! It has taken me nearly 7 years to share Matthew's story. I can't fathom the amount of strength it took to do that.
I feel honored that Peyton has trusted me enough to ask me to help her put on Gathering Hope 2017. Today, on James Lauderdale's 3rd birthday, we honor his too short life, as well as all of the other babies taken too soon, by inviting you to sign up for this event which will occur October 22 in Aledo, TX.
If you've suffered from the heartache of a childloss, be it a miscarriage or the loss of an infant, we invite you to come join us for a night of love and remembrance with other mamas and grandmas who have been there.
Our goal is for you to feel unconditionally loved, understood, and free to talk about your child/children in a judgment free zone for the evening. Hear messages of truth, wisdom, and hope poured out from women who have been where you are and feel a sense of belonging and acceptance.
That is our hope as we gather this October. Space is limited, so sign up as soon as you can!
All My Love ~